For the second time this summer, I was not invited to a wedding that I was sure I would be invited to. First, it was my friend (I’ve already written about that. Let’s move on.), and now, it’s one of H’s friends. I can see the reasoning – I’ve been in and helped plan enough weddings to understand it. H was in this guy’s fraternity. If other brothers are going to be there, they will all know each other. Hence, plus-one’s are not necessary.
But. There’s always a but.
I have been with H for over a year and a half. I’ve heard the stories of these friends since I met him. I’ve heard all about their antics at the fraternity house, their weekends meeting in an awesome central-location city. I watch as he giggles incessantly at their group messages on his phone. I want to meet these people, these grown men who can make H laugh harder than I can. But now I’m afraid I may never get the chance.
He’s been hyping up this wedding for quite a long time. I wrote it in my calendar months ago, and H has been planning to attend the Bachelor Party for months. Now what? Is he going to drive six hours by himself, twice, and leave me at home? Or can I be added to the RSVP card? What is the proper etiquette here?
I’ve talked to both K and J1 (K is married and J1 is planning her wedding), and they had conflicting advice. My mother said that no adult should be sending out wedding invitations to out-of-town guests without giving them a plus-one. I’m not sure what H should do, to be honest. I’m not sure where I fall into all of this. How am I supposed to feel? I live with H, I spend all of my free time with him, and yet I don’t get to accompany him to his friend’s wedding? It just doesn’t seem right.
I guess I may have an update on this situation in a couple of weeks. We will see.
What are your thoughts? I’m interested in hearing anything and everything.